Posts tagged "abuse"

Oath, Magnified

“How do I feel?”  …
If I feel bad, then is there anything
I can do to make myself feel better? …
I must fight to give myself the right to feel good
about myself and to feel good mood-wise,
regardless of any accomplishment
or nonaccomplishment whatsoever.

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Rumination

There is the past, which nobody can deny – it is there, solid, brutalising, crippling, destroying the mind. That is a fact, outwardly and psychologically. See this fact without any condemnation or judgment; merely see the fact of what the past is.
Jiddu Krishnamurti

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Compelling Enthusiasm

The reason most people find healing so hard is that they’ve had so little help, so little guidance, and so little information. Emotional recovery can be, and should be, a joyous journey. People who get the right pieces in place find that:

  • healing moves fast.
  • some gains are immediate, with many more to follow.
  • the pleasure greatly outweighs the pain.
  • the parts that do involve hard work are so rewarding that the underlying feeling remains, “I can totally do this.”
  • healing is not a solitary undertaking, and it leads rapidly to greater and greater connection …

If you’re still alive, there’s still time. You can gain back a vibrant, connected, satisfying life. Pain, anxiety, and isolation do not need to dominate.

— The Joyous Recovery, Lundy Bancroft

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The Snake

Aesop’s The Farmer and the Viper

A Farmer walked through his field one cold winter morning. On the ground lay a Snake, stiff and frozen with the cold. The Farmer knew how deadly the Snake could be, and yet he picked it up and put it in his bosom to warm it back to life.

The Snake soon revived, and when it had enough strength, bit the man who had been so kind to it. The bite was deadly and the Farmer felt that he must die. As he drew his last breath, he said to those standing around:

Learn from my fate not to take pity on a scoundrel.

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