When we deeply grasp what has happened to us, it becomes clear that we’re doing great. One of the essential shifts in perspective that I’m hoping you’ll take from The Joyous Recovery is to drop the notion, “I need to change what’s wrong with me,” and replace it with, “It’s incredible that I’ve done as well as I have. Now it’s time to do even better.”
Think of healing not as a process of changing, but the opposite: of becoming more truly the person you’ve always been. It’s about going back along the road picking up all the pieces of yourself that were taken from you along the way. We’re not trying to fix what’s wrong with you; we’re trying to set what’s right with you free.
—The Joyous Recovery, Lundy Bancroft
